Toddlers are still developing language skills, decision-making skills, handling frustrations, and observing limits; however, they do not know self-control. These scenarios can be challenging for parents and caretakers to manage. Toddler discipline is not aimed at getting rid of problematic behaviors at once. Discipline entails establishing rules and giving them opportunities to behave well.
Toddler discipline refers to the training of a toddler to behave in safer and proper ways. Toddler discipline is not about making the toddler comply and being punished for mistakes.
The toddlers are at their development stage regarding language skills, impulse control, emotional regulation, and seeing things from someone else's point of view. The toddler may know that something is forbidden but has a problem controlling himself.
Discipline becomes more successful if it becomes educational. A mother could prevent her toddler from hitting, set the boundary for him, help him relax, and show him how to behave in a better way.
Toddlers cannot memorize many instructions at once. Concentrate on a few key guidelines about safety, respect, and routine activities.
Rather than giving many instructions like "No making messes, no touching this, and be careful," use one instruction such as "Keep the crayons on the table."
Simple instructions are easier to apply every time and easier for toddlers to comprehend.
As often as possible, express your instructions as positive commands. Instead of saying "No running" all the time, say "Walk inside." This provides a toddler with something to do, not only things to refrain from doing.
When adults are consistent, the boundaries start to make sense. When a child throws his or her toys, simply take the toy away and let the child know that throwing the toy is not acceptable behavior.
Try to avoid threatening the child with punishments that you have no intention of carrying out. Consistency works better than threats and anger.
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A clear boundary for a toddler should be realistic and age-appropriate. It is not necessary to prove to the toddler that this boundary is just at each emotional moment. The responsibility of the adult is to keep this boundary and consider the feelings of the toddler.
Boundaries are easier to establish if there is environmental support for them. If the toddler keeps being attracted to a delicate item, it would be much more effective to put this item away from his reach than constantly warning him.
Routines can also contribute to establishing boundaries since toddlers know what is coming next.
Redirection may prove useful with toddlers too. If the child does something dangerous or inappropriate, then shift his/her focus towards something more acceptable.
For example, when the child throws some household objects around, take away the object and give him/her a soft ball for safe throwing; if the child starts drawing on furniture, then draw on paper instead. However, redirection is not always about bypassing limits. Instead, it teaches what else the child could do.
Tantrums occur because the toddler wants something, is unable to communicate effectively, is frustrated, or is having difficulty with the transition.
When the child is having a tantrum, an explanation will not help. Be concise and speak calmly. Validate the feeling while maintaining a safety boundary that needs to be enforced.
For instance, “You are upset because we need to go. I understand that you want to remain, but we need to go.” If the child is not at risk, taking some time for the child to calm down is more helpful than insisting on compliance. Once the child is calmed, the desired behavior can be discussed.
Positive toddler discipline involves skill development as well as being reasonable with your expectations. It does not involve letting the kids do as they please.
Praising them may increase their good behavior because they receive recognition for something you would like to see them do again. Rather than just telling the kids, "Good job," tell them why they got praise, such as, “You put the blocks up when I asked. "Thank you."
Positive attention can help appropriate behavior stand out.
Different situations call for varying approaches. Useful toddler discipline techniques include:
Presenting two acceptable options allows toddlers to feel like they have choices but does not eliminate parental control through, “Would you like to use the blue cup or the yellow cup?”
Providing warnings may help toddlers transition between activities. Inform toddlers about when playtime is coming to an end and then repeat the warning at the time for transitioning.
Removing any temptations from view can make appropriate behavior much easier. Child-proofing is a great way to avoid conflicts before they occur.
When possible and safe, give toddlers consequences that are related to their actions. When water is intentionally dumped on the floor, toddlers should be able to help clean up the mess with some adult assistance.
Toddlers imitate behavior. Calmly speaking, identifying emotions, making apologies, and problem-solving are lessons that toddlers can’t learn simply through verbal instructions.
Some of the problems that occur in toddlers are hitting, biting, throwing, screaming, non-compliance with instructions, grasping things, and inability to share.
In case of aggression, make sure your safety and the child's come first and put an immediate stop to whatever the child is doing. You can say something short like, “I'm not going to allow you to hit.” And if necessary, separate the child from the scene.
When dealing with refusal, see if what you want from the child is important at all. If yes, give some choices to the child and establish a predictable pattern for him/her.
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Do not use physical punishment, humiliation, intimidation, or frightening tactics. None of these help children learn how to control their emotions and make good decisions. Do not call a child a “bad kid” or “naughty.” It is important to address the behavior, not who the child is. Be careful not to expect too much self-control from a toddler.
Toddler discipline is not about punishment but is centered on teaching, being consistent, and bonding. Setting clear boundaries for toddlers, giving simple directions, redirecting, praising positively, and following through can assist in helping children to learn to control themselves. Misbehavior will continue because toddlers are learning, and it is not expected that they will always be obedient.
Select a limited set of rules that will work for your toddler and define how you will react to the situation. Repeat your reaction using the same language every time the situation arises. Consistency does not imply repeating your reaction identically; it implies that important boundaries remain the same.
It depends. If the child is not endangered, the parent can stand close to him/her, recognize his/her emotions, and give some room to cope with it. Dangerous actions cannot be ignored. The response should be defined by the behavior of the child and his/her need to regulate it.
Interrupt this action right away and make sure that nobody is hurt. Say, “I am not going to allow you to hit,” and separate the kids, then help the child calm down. Later, teach the child better ways of expressing frustration or asking for something.
Frequent refusal is very normal since toddlers are learning how to be independent and realize that they can choose. Providing them with two acceptable choices, following predictable routines, and providing strict instructions only on serious matters is the best way to avoid unnecessary conflicts.
There is no set time frame for this. Usually, toddlers require several attempts and reminders before they develop new behaviors. Different factors may affect the speed at which they learn these behaviors.
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